Married With Children


Dear Readers,

The day my sister got married she wore a flowing, white, wedding gown pinned with tiny pink roses. I watched with the rest of the wedding party, as she walked down the aisle clutching my father’s arm. Her wedding dress ruffled as if she were floating on clouds, and when I saw her smile I knew she was truly happy in that moment. I was happy for her, although it felt as though I was losing her. When my sister gave birth to my nephew, almost two years after her marriage, I was there. Once again standing by, waiting during the 24 hours of labor, praying that there were no complications and that the baby and she would be okay. I held my nephew for the first time—and in my arms he felt so tiny. His rose colored face was beautiful and round, and as I whispered to him “I Love You” he opened his eyes and smiled. I could not imagine anything else being so perfect in my life, than that moment of pure perfection.

Sincerely, The Open Closet


PS. THIS IS JUST AN EXCERPT FROM MY BOOK: “The Open Closet: Letters From A Gay Man” (Available on AMAZON & KINDLE)

If you enjoyed reading this letter and would like to read more, please consider purchasing a copy and help spread awareness of issues  plaguing the LGBT community.



12 thoughts on “Married With Children

    1. Thank you Mark! As with all the topics I write about—they have a deep connection with my personal life, and sometimes the ink acts as the blood that flows through my body igniting the right words with the right postings. I appreciate your sentiments and hope you continue reading! Best wishes.

  1. I am as much envious of your writing style and technique as I am lucky to have a chance to read of such interesting, thought-provoking and endearing blog postings when made possible. This entry here is no exception to those thoughts or emotions. As a 45 year old gay man now, I honestly don’t recall a precise moment in my own past when I considered a child or marriage and though I have had only 2 long term relationships which span over a 18 year period total, I never had a chance to really pursue those choices further due to the fact that my partner, either one at the time, did not seem interested in a child or marriage. Perhaps it was for the best and perhaps not. We’ll never really know until all is said and done of course but you are young, full of hope and heart and have a chance with someone with a plan to make all these visions come true with dedication, with determination and of course, with love at your side as surely as your partner will be. I agree with Shirtlessiniceland — “your postings are indeed worthy of national publication” and let me add, that is not for the sake of being purely a current topic but rather, because they speak from a place so many others out there can relate to on a daily basis. Write onward and love forward.


    1. Thank you Gregory—I am speechless! Your thoughtfulness means so much to me! I do not think it is ever too late to find love, if one is open to accepting it. Part of my journey was learning to love myself before I could give my heart to someone else. As much as I would like to believe that love never fades, and that this relationship will last forever—one does not know what the future has in store. However, I am hopeful, and if in the future he asks, and I accept…I would like to have children. Thank you for reading, as well as sharing your story with me. Best wishes to you my friend.

  2. It is good to have goals and dreams like any couple, straight or gay. There is no reason to worry about having the same type of dreams most people have. There are enough grown up children of gay parents to tell the world they turned out alright, and usually straight because that is the orientation of most people. If you love your children and make a good home, they will love you back, whether “traditional” straight family or gay. New laws make the same goals possible for all, at least here in Illinois. Go for it, be happy.

      1. Thanks for the nice comments. Since I came in at the middle you may have noticed I jumped around but think I have caught up with the letters now. Each is special.

      2. Thank you Rich for your continued readership—don’t forget to catch my new post on Sunday morning, especially if you are a fan of music, classic films, or American pastimes! Can you guess the theme?

  3. Wow. What wonderful writing. I’m in such awe and amazement. I don’t think I was even close to your level of maturity and depth 5 years ago when I was 25. I’m turning 31 in 6 days and I still wonder “Do I really want children, or even marriage?” Perhaps that is because I have never actually had a boyfriend or been in a romantic relationship and those are thoughts/notions that have never been discussed or felt on my part (in terms of being a couple).

    I love this post and I’m definitely going to have my friends read this.

    1. Thank you liamfox 83! I appreciate your enthusiasm and thoughtfulness in wanting to share my letters! As far as having a love life, my advice is “Do not lose heart”, one day prince charming will find you—you just have to open and willing to accept his love, and have the courage to look for it! Thank you for your continued readership!

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